Agony & Family Mediation

Family disputes can be emotionally drenching and this time it was no different with 8 hours of mediation which started with a well mannered lady expressing what she expected of a marriage as a young girl out when she married him about 20 years ago and what she eventually got! They were good friends for some time even before the marriage.

She was shattered with repeated abuses, verbal and physical, which resulted into all of her dreams going down the drain. It was not her only who was heart broken but it seemed the intelligent husband also had an emotional side. Both of them have been enduring each other for reasons unknown but presumably because of the society or care for each other but wanted to divorce each other since long time.

The Husband was proud of financially providing for the house and the Wife had the anger of giving up her career in the pursuit of assisting her husband whilst he relocated from one place to another regularly through out the marriage.

It all got accumulated and the couple, as they then were, did not attempted to clear out the misunderstanding. This is a common mistake which results into a couple fighting again and again out of frustration as they do not go to the root of the problem but rather add up new problems layering it up.

The Wife had enough of the abuses as it was no longer against him but towards her parents directly which was no longer tolerable. Furthermore, she was relieved that her child has grown up to excuse him from the pain of separation of his parents. She was ready for the divorce but he wanted the divorce without any public record of his misdoings as he was self-conscious of his image as an intelligent and ‘respectable’ man.

This is a classic situation whereby I recommended the wife, whom I was representing, to conduct mediation before issuing the court proceedings. The mediation lasted for 8 hours where it was emphasised to the Husband in this case that when the MAN goes out to earn then the WOMAN makes sacrifices sufficient enough that the MAN freely pursues his career. The sacrifices should not be ignored and whatever might be the reason; it is NEVER acceptable to raise your hands on your WOMAN.

The Mediation fortunately ended into a settlement with the help of mediator balancing between both parties and I being the aggressive solicitor representing the Wife. However, what moved me was that eventually the Wife hugged her soon to be Former husband for one last time with each other and parted ways. I could see the agony in her eyes as if “What if we could go back in time and just not hate each other?”

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